Jun 24, 2014

Marriage Is: Marriage Isn’t.

Today I am going to share with you one of my first posts about some of the things that I think marriage is and some of the things I think that marriage isn’t. I will be doing a post about this once a week for the next month so stay tuned for that 
Every Tuesday! 

This last weekend I was thinking a lot about what marriage is and how it can be such a beautiful picture of Christ and the church. I was listening to a song that really touched my heart and I felt overwhelmed by how much Jesus loves us.

*The following statements are based off of my personal opinion and what I believe to be true. I am in no way claiming to be a marriage expert.

Marriage Is…
A commitment

Marriage is something that should not be taken lightly. It is a covenant between a man and a woman that should be kept forever. God has given us our spouse as a gift and even though it is not always easy or we go through seasons of struggle we need to keep that commitment.

Marriage isn’t…
A business deal.
So many marriages end because people believe that when things get hard or go wrong they can end the “contract” and try again with someone else.

But from the beginning of creation, 'God made them male and female. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."
                                                                                                            Mark 10:6-9

Marriage is…
The most sacred earthly relationship

Our relationship with our spouse should be the most important relationship here on earth. It should be first priority before your family, friends and even your children. That is how God designed it.  

Marriage isn’t…
Your identity

Marriage should not be what we place our identity in. Our relationship with Christ is what we should be placing our identity in. I really struggle with this one. I often get so caught up in my marriage and being a wife that I forget about my relationship with Jesus and how that should be the most important thing to me. As husband and wife we will fail each other and if our identity is based on our marriage we will become discouraged pretty easily.

Marriage is…
Two sinners sharing life together

Both my husband and I sin against each other and others every day. We are not perfect and we will never be. It is good to recognize that both people in a relationship will make mistakes and hurt one another. I think it makes giving grace and forgiving a little easier when I realize that I also mess up.

Marriage isn’t…
An excuse to stop dating

I actually think it is more fun to date Jordan now that we are married than when we were dating. Since we chose to not live together before we were married it was always hard to say goodbye at the end of the night. Now… we don’t have to say goodbye. I do think you have to be more intentional with dating when you are married because life’s busyness can get in the way. It is SO important to nurture your marriage and one of the ways to do that is to date! Spend time alone together enjoying each other’s company and conversation.

There are many other things that marriage is and marriage isn’t but for today these are the ones that I am focusing on. Stay tuned for more next week! 

I am so blessed to be married to such an incredible man that loves me so well and encourages me daily. The last couple of weeks have been rough for us and we have really had to work at our marriage a lot harder than usual. Through these hard times it is good for me to remember that God is sovereign and that as long as we keep drawing close to the Lord as well as each other we can work through our difficulties.

Thanks so much for following along today! Marriage is such an important topic to me and I feel blessed to be able to share my heart with you all today! 

Have a beautiful day! 


  1. Replies
    1. Thank you SO much Ashley! They are good reminders for me and my marriage! Have a great day!

  2. really wise words, thanks for sharing!

  3. Have just come along your blog randomly, simply by typing in 'newlywed blog' on google and it was one of the first ones that came up and to be honest, I am loving it so much so far! You have such a great way of sharing your marriage story in a honest and lovely blog! Every blessing, Natasha :-)